I have debated all day on whether or not to touch this subject.
It's one of those thoughts that has left me scratching my head, and thinking "Hmmm."
Ultimately, (obviously), I've decided to take the plunge and blog.
When my blog was private I had a running list of who's eyeballs were reading this page. What scares me at the moment, is I could be setting myself up for some harsh words.
With that said, I feel compelled to write, so, bring it on.
I have 84 photo albums on facebook. YEAH. Lord knows how many actual PHOTOS I have on there. And then it hit me- my profile picture had turned into one of those blank, gray issued pictures. The picture deemed innappropriate, the picture that was referred to as a "nude" picture, was my profile picture of my 3 year old daughter, shirtless, on the beach.
I got a quick and crazy amount of outpouring of support (thanks friends!). Lots of love, supporting the picture itself, photography, etc. (45+ comments in like 30 minutes?)
My head wasn't there though. It wasn't in the picture. I have the picture. It's here, at home with me. It doesn't matter to me if facebook won't "allow" it. It's a picture I treasure, and that's all that matters. My head was trying to wrap around the thought that someone out there looked at that picture, and actually thought an innapropriate thought.
Throughout the day, I've tossed a few ideas around; Going private with the blog (again), doing some major, MAJOR weeding through my facebook friend list, removing any pictures I have of my kids that could possibly be misconstrued.
It is the last thought that hung me up. I did in fact go through my albums. I went all the way back to when Maeve was a newborn. I went back to this picture:
It's so sick that this even needs to be done. And let me make it clear I am NOT removing these pictures because I find something wrong with them, and I'm worried facebook will "get me." It's that person out there who looked at Maeve's beautiful picture and thought anything but a 3 year old at the beach.
Anyways, I'm not mad at facebook. I don't have anyone to be mad at- and to add to the "mystery" more, "the picture" was only deleted from my profile- not my album. So I don't think its any of my 800+ facebook "friends" that reported it. Which makes it even scarier. The report came from someone who really is OUT THERE. yeeeek.
The moral of the story, for me anyway, is that I need to adapt to a new kind of privacy. When it comes to the internet and sites like facebook, and blogger, I can't think like a mom. I can't post that hilarious picture of my two babes in the bath, splashing like maniacs. Or the picture of my 2 year old streaking through the sprinkler on a hot summer day. It's such a shame the world we live in today, but its also the reality.
Anyways, this "stuff" has been running/racing/spinning through my head since I first saw the "notice."
As a mom, or a parent, or a caregiver, please tell me, where should the line be drawn? What should be posted and what shouldn't?
I'm tired. My head hurts. So does my cervix. (ha... more on that tomorrow).
Good night... and please, please, leave your opinion on this.